Christian Life & Discipleship

Are You Believing Lies About Yourself?

Should we believe lies? The word ‘lie’ indicates that it is something untrue – something that we should not believe – yet we still do believe many untruths about ourselves. Why is that?

The thing is, a lie is simply the absence of truth, and if you believe a lie about yourself, you cannot stop believing it until you replace it with God’s truth.

Even though it makes us feel so bad about ourselves and we wish it could be different. Perhaps we just don’t think we can actually change it. Or maybe we just don’t recognize what our beliefs are about ourselves. I know exactly how this feels. Coming to DTS I believed a lot of lies about myself. Actually, at that time I didn’t even know that they were lies. I probably did, deep down in my heart, but I ignored that small voice telling me so. I wouldn’t have thought that I would actually be able to step up and stop believing the thoughts in my mind that said, “You are a bad girl. You’re not valuable. Don’t even think you can make a change… or be used by God. Others can, but you… no, not you.” It wasn’t until after some teaching about God’s character and amazing help from certain people that I really started realising that the truth says something much different. It took a good amount of courage and faith to start accepting God’s truth about myself, which is this: I am valuable, God loves me, God wants to use me, He does care for me. This is what the Bible says, what God says. The thing is, a lie is simply the absence of truth, and if you believe a lie about yourself, you cannot stop believing it until you replace it with God’s truth. God’s truth is stronger than every lie. So how do we do that? Here are some steps that helped me to start believing God’s truth about myself:

1. Recognise the lies in your life. I know this might not always be easy, but you have to know what the wrong belief is in order to replace it with God’s truth. If you struggle with that step, ask people that you trust for help. Most of all, ask God to show you the lies in your life. He knows them, and His biggest desire is to help you to get rid of them and live in his joy and freedom.

2. Once you know the lies, it is time to get active. For me it helped writing them down and then crossing them out, declaring, “This is not the truth. I am not… (for example: worthless); I recognise that this is a lie and I choose to no longer believe and live by it.” It is important to really speak that out to get it out of your mind. Go to a place where you are on your own and shout it out.

Truth has the power to change your mind and heal it.

3. Declare God’s truth instead. Remember, a lie is simply the absence of truth. So in order to really get that wrong belief out of your mind, you have to replace it with the truth – God’s truth that is stronger than every lie. And where do you find the truth? In his word, the Bible. Two Bible verses that really helped me were Isaiah 43:1 “‘Do not fear for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.'” and Isaiah 43:4 “Since you are precious and honoured in my sight, and because I love you.” You can ask God to reveal the truth to you through his word. Whatever it is that you struggle with; He has an answer for you because He cares for you. So declare the truth: “I am valuable. I am loved. I am… (fill with the truth you find in His word). I choose to believe it from now on, as that is what God says about me.” Don’t give up if you don’t feel a change right away. Speaking out the truth might feel a little awkward or even wrong in the beginning, because you believed the lies for such a long time. But God’s word has power, and speaking out the truth will make a change; as the Bible says, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Don’t give up. Stick to God’s truth and declare it whenever the lies turn up again. After time you will really start to believe it by heart. It may not be easy in the beginning, but it will get easier. You just have to make a decision every day that you will not believe the lies anymore and that you will cling to God’s truth no matter how you feel. Truth has the power to change your mind and heal it. You can trust God. His truth is your refuge. “The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge.” Psalm 18:2